BLOGSPOT PEP TALK

Is there ever a time where NOT ONE good thing is going on in life? Is it safe to say that believing that is self pity? I don't want to be insensitive but there is nothing godly about only having negative things to say about life. Job cursed the day he was born behind one bad season. We, as humans, are ridiculous. Let us come against the spirit of depression, self pity and anger, impatience and resentment! These are not of God! Job cursed the day he was born out of partial ignorance of who God was and what God would do after he repented!!! It's important to expect God to change a situation, but it's even more important how you behave in your off seasons. Fighting the good fight does not involve complaining. Fighting the good fight of faith involves warring against spiritual wickedness! I'm so sorry, but if you look at your life and you don't see any light in it, you may need to DELIGHT yourself in The Lord more 😣. I don't understand your issues and you don't understand mine, but we have the same God! If He can give me joy, He can give you joy! COME OUT of that self pity. Jesus is still on the throne!!! You've suffered loss, debt, financial lack, unhealthy relationships -- so have I, EVEN NOW!!! Bless the Lord anyway man! It's one thing after the other but stop looking at your life. Don't keep more record of the losses than you are of the record of Christ! I promise you. The details of my current situation are not pretty. Spiritual warfare is real, but do NOT allow it to sift you as wheat! As the Holy Spirit to burn away anything that is a hindrance and anything that causes you to pity yourself more than you glorify God. The enemy most certainly would love to steal your praise. YOUR PRAISE is a part of your relationship with The Lord! Stop worshipping your problems as if they are sovereign, mighty, undefeated, most powerful, and almighty. That's misplaced worship! IDOLATRY: it's not just statues, moons, animals, and miscellaneous physical items! Get it together, baby! The only part of the battle that you have to fight is staying connected to God! Stay connected! Stay connected! We connect through prayer, worship, and the things we set our affections on!!!! "Think on THESE THINGS" Philippians 4:8-9. I'm not coming to you from a place of total deliverance of my afflictions, But I AM giving you perspectives from the seat of victory! @loveandswagger: "You just don't understand 😩" maaaaaan, STOP. you're being distracted even now. GOD. IS. WITH. YOU. Let me reiterate. This isnt insensitivity. This is a wake up call. The bed of pity is so comfortable, but don't sleep! Fight! Pray! Worship! Come against the enemy and his workers who wish to keep you in darkness, feeling alone, and defeated! We wrestle not against flesh and blood!!!! 😩 It's not by mistake that you experienced what you've experienced. Those things have caused you to feel how you feel! It was a plan to ruin! Oh, but you better recognize what you're up against. Be free and be not entangled in this bondage again! 

too much love,

youdontknowmebro

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Sin: It's Not That Serious.

I just saw a man completely pick up a woman, take her to the back of the club, turn her upside down and spazz ...and she pretty much let him. 

"It's just dancing" until somebody gets an erection.

I'm not about to talk about them though. I'm about to talk about something else. 

The sinful condition of the heart is nothing to brush off. The things we let slide and ignore as sin, in its minuteness, will eventually show its face as the beast that it is. We end up letting too much slide, but many times, it's out of ignorance. The people will surely perish for a lack of knowledge and for lack of desire to have knowledge. You get offended if a person says you shouldn't do certain things because you think that it's nothing. But you would be mad if you stood at heavens gates and realized that nobody told you to put away your sin. Listen to wisdom! Please! 

A fool ignores the man that tells him not to drive a car that doesn't have breaks. A fool rather drives it at a high speed. But do you know that your sin leads to death? 

Sin satisfies until you get to the place where you can't stop. Then, it becomes more bold in its destruction. It's boldest level is Hell. 

"I can't help it. I just do it. It feels good." Okay, that's what it's supposed to do. You think Satan out here stupid?

If somebody tells you something is wrong, search the word for yourself on it. You don't even have to take their word for it. But don't SHUN. IT WILL KILL YOU. 

"It's just a song"

"It's just dancing" 

"It's just weed" 

"It's just sex" 

"It's just judgement day".

Ain't no pretending to be somebody I'm not. I'm just sayin .......it's time to get serious about what you say you believe. I'm not one to trail you down and throw you in Hell for what you do. But, I WILL tell you that loving sin separates you from God. PERIOD  

too much love, 

youdontknowmebro

Shut Up, Sometimes!!! It's Biblical.

"God's people have to learn when to be QUIET & be led, only!" 

If you read the book of Job and only got out of it an encouraging word about getting back everything the devil stole from you, you didn't really read the book of Job. You heard about it and you went straight to the part of the passage that supported that message.

No matter what perspective you've heard the story told from, we always talk about Job's friends because, let's be real: Job's friends were aggravating!!!! I almost stopped reading Job because of his fake wise, fake deep, condescending, friends. But, the truth is that Job's friends are a lot like the Christians/ Saints/ Believers/ Bible thumpers of today. (Checkpoint: Are YOU one of those people?) ... Anyway & HOWEVER, there is one person in this text who really sets the standard of a proper response to Job's situation. I suggest EVERYBODY look very closely at the account of Elihu. He starts talking in the 32nd chapter.

Elihu was the youngest out of Job and his friends. He sat and listed to the whole debate until they wore themselves out (Job 32:11). Job had just went hard for about two chapters and the text says that the three men ceased to answer because Job was righteous in his own eyes (Job 32:1). There was no use in debating with him anymore.

Now, Elihu was hesitant to speak his mind because he was the youngest, but he listened and he listened well for a LONG time. Regardless of his reasoning, Elihu understood the importance of being silent, knowing his time to speak would come; and when his time to speak came, he was READY.

He starts is words directed toward the three friends: "He [Job] hasn't directed his words against me: neither will I answer with your [the friends] speeches".

and then he speaks his mind. his beautiful,beautiful mind.

Elihu was angry at the friends because they couldn't truly prove that Job was wrong, yet they had condemned him (Job 32:3), but he was also angry at Job because he "justified himself, rather than God" (Job 32:2), and at this point, he says "my belly is as wine which hath no vent it is ready to burst like new bottles." <----- THE SELF CONTROL! The self control it took for Elihu to hold his peace until the proper time... man!

AND THEN 

Elihu begins, in Job 33, to remind Job that he was not righteous in and of himself, but that God has RENDERED him righteous; and after his elders had just ACCUSED Job, still saying, "if you have anything to say, say it; Speak, for I desire to JUSTIFY thee."

Elihu had something that the others lacked: wisdom.

 Most importantly, he had understanding that he knew came from the inspiration of God, alone and that even this wisdom was no excuse to speak lowly of Job. He also knew that although he was younger, that meant nothing.
He says "great men are no always wise. neither do the aged understand judgement. (Job 32:8-9)

Elihu was the SLOWEST to speak of the all, but he is the only one who speaks in wisdom. He tells Job [his ELDER], "If not, hearken unto me: hold thy peace, and I shall teach thee wisdom".

THIS IS WHAT THE BODY OF CHRIST NEEDS MORE OF

but some of those who are the loudest are lacking it.

CATCH THIS:

Elihu is CAREFUL with all of his words and is precise in carrying out his role as a fellow brethren. "Don't judge"?! This is righteous judgment because he was truly led of God and done in love! I. WILL. PROVE. IT. with one liners and scriptures only.

1. He waited to speak and when the time came, he administered grace.

Job 33:5-7 If you can answer me, set thy words in order before me, stand up [for yourself]. Behold, I am according to thy wish in God's stead: I am also formed out of the clay. Though my terror shall not make thee afraid, neither shall my hand be heavy upon thee.

2. He waited to speak, and when the time came, he made his role clear as being secondary. 

Job 36:3-4 I will fetch my knowledge from afar and will ascribe righteousness to my maker. For truly my words won't be false. He that is perfect in knowledge is with thee. [notice that he said "with thee" --adding to the fact that his words are purposed only to bring Job to a place of closeness with the Lord. Not to bring light to himself at all except to assure Job that God is surely working in him.]

3. He waited to speak, and when the time came, he told Job what precise issue he perceived was in his heart.

Job 33:3 My words shall be of the uprightness of my heart and my lips shall utter knowledge clearly.

Job 34:31-32 Surely it is meet to be said unto God, I have borne chastisement, I will not offend any more: That which I see not teach thou me: if I have done iniquity, I will do no more. (Basically saying, "you should rather ask what you did wrong than assume that you have no wrong. Ask to understand or see what you've been missing.)

Job 34:35-37 For [Job] adds rebellion unto his sin, he claps his hands among us, and multiplies his words against God

4. He waited to speak, and when the time came, he helped Job REFOCUS on who God is.

Job 33:29-30 All things work God often times with man to bring back his soul from the pit, to be enlightened with the light of living. [<---wisdom!]

Job 36:7-9 He withdraweth not his eyes from the righteous: but with kings are they on the throne' yea, he dothe establish them forever an they are exalted. And if they be bound in fetters and beholden in cords of affliction; then he shows them their work and their transgressions that they have exceeded.

Job 37:13-14 He causes it to come, whether for correction, or for his land, or for mercy. Hear this, Job: stand still and consider the wondrous works of God. Hear this, O Job: stand still and consider the wondrous works of God.

THEN GOD STARTS TALKING (uh, oh. O.o)
in Chapter 38

Elihu served as a forerunner, preparing Job's heart for what was to come: an interrogation from the Lord that challenges Job's understanding of the foundations of the Earth.

It was intense, you gotta read it.

But before God steps in, Elihu was used in a major way that the others could not have been used because they spoke partly out of their carnal minds. They sounded spiritual! but, they pulled from what they already knew, not from what God allowed them to see. After all, they were talking too much to listen. One spoke of a dream he had to support his condemning lecture. Job calls them lousy comforters. If you didn't know any better, you'd think that God didn't say in the beginning of the chapter that Job was his

"good and faithful servant".

The truth is that Job was a good and faithful servant. But in order to save Job from himself -- his self righteousness -- Job had to be afflicted. 

Thank God for Elihu. Man of wisdom.

But, still today, God's people have to learn to be QUIET & be led, only! 

That is, if they call themselves speaking for God. They must be found
administering grace, taking the backseat to the Lord, judging righteously and keenly -- in love, and helping the brethren refocus on the Lord and salvation.

Let us all take notes.

P.S. But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be entreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy. (James 3:17 KJV)

Charleston Shooting: What Now, Saints?

Man, listen. This sucks. But if I can get your attention for a quick 3 minutes, I think we can get somewhere.

When I heard the news (meaning, saw the news on twitter), I wasn't shocked. I know the world we live in and I'm sure you do too. So, before I went to bed, being literally speechless, I asked the Lord "What do we do?" I'm not gonna tell you the word I got and I'll tell you why, later.


I'll tell you what was on my mind this morning though for the Body of Christ. "Don't fall apart".

Dear, Saints. Especially my fellow black Saints: a lot of things won't change. I hate to seem pessimistic. Our people made sure to see things change through equal rights protests and great movements that we benefit from today. I'm not saying lose hope that some things will change, but prepare your hearts and know that some things will not, and that it's for a purpose.

Be sure you're secure in Christ because we live in a nation that is due judgment. Things will get worse, but hope in the Lord. Wisdom is so necessary; it is the principal thing. Also, suffering is a part of the plan. We are SUPPOSED to suffer terrible things... it's not that bizarre when you look at the cross.

It could have been any of us in that sanctuary. I recognize that any minute, I could die as a result of the evil that thrives in the hearts of man. I thank God for His protection, even as a woman who often travels alone, but I know that anything can happen at any time, anywhere. Please, don't think it insensitive or uncompassionate when I say that, somehow, God is using all this for His glory.

Let's make sure that those that die in these days, since evil does abound, are saved. (Matthew 24:12)

Don't let your love wax cold, though it's been prophesied that many will. Don't fall apart. Be angry, okay, but allow yourself to refocus on our hope and pray. You may not hate people of another race, but you've fallen short of love at some point or another.

So, don't let injustice make you feel righteous.

If I may write in improper English for a second: I will say that I ain't with all this, but there's a point to it all. If you can't find words to pray, pray in your prayer language. If you don't have one, meditate on the Word. Ain't no way God has left us, and He didn't leave us to resolve these situations on our own. Act in wisdom. If God don't say move, sit your behind down. Be led by the spirit at all times. Don't be led by your anger. There were battles won by the Lord and men didn't necessarily kill their enemy. They were just obedient. Its in the Bible, go look if you don't believe me.

I'm not saying sit on your hands, I'm saying pray for wisdom on what to do. And IF the Lord says "just trust Me" ...then, just trust Him. Be rooted. Trust God at all times. If you must die, die. But die in right standing with the Lord.

I can't read that stupid stuff in the media. It's all a distraction from the bigger picture.

I'm not gonna tell you what I got from the Lord because (1) I want to challenge you to ask Him, yourself, and (2) I'm sure that He will reveal more instruction as time goes by. But before you  make a move, be open to hear the wisdom of the Lord. You'd be surprised as God may use you to lead a movement more effective than you could've imagined all because you decided to heed His voice. Before you think about rioting, just don't. Or if you're not convinced, ask the Lord if He wants you to participate and then obey.

Don't move without communicating with the Lord.

It is so very easy to miss the voice of God. Trust me, I know. It's easy to take a portion of what He says and manipulate it to mean something else, but I can promise you that if you never inquire about what the Lord actually wants you to do, the enemy will take that opportunity to befuddle you. However, if you have gotten a word from the Lord, you can march, knowing that God is with you -- you can rest, knowing that God is with you -- you can continue to go into churches, knowing that God is with you -- you can live courageously, knowing that God is with you.

Do not fear.

God is with us.

Isaiah 41:10

Love is an action.

"We do not define
         love, 
love is already 
                defined."
       - impeccablelovestory

Three days ago, I posted something on Instagram and Facebook that was heavy on my mind. The response was overwhelmingly positive, so I decided to bring it to the blog. I promise, the caption turned out to be much longer than I expected, for which, I had to put a disclaimer: "LONG CAPTION COMIN AT YOUR THROAT LIKE FOOD" -- nonetheless, as a blog post, it is relatively short and worth the read ;). 

This is not a book, but can I do a 

Preface

I always hear people say "I love him/her", and I always wonder if they know the weight behind those words. "Love" itself is of divine nature. I would even say that saying "I love you" is a covenant with the tongue. Personally, I don't say that I love a person unless I have, or know that I can long-term uphold that covenant. Personally, "I love you" are the last three words I want to hear a person say unless I can agree that they do, in fact, love me. Am I making sense?

Here's the caption. Enjoy!

 

"I feel like this [love is an action] is the best kept secret. You can't say you love somebody and then forfeit every opportunity to show it. Your best bet is to admit that you don't know how to love and that perfect love can only come from the Father. If you say "I love you", I should be able to respond "do you? How?" Love's response will not say how I make him/her feel. Love's response will say "this is what I do for you". I'm patient with you. I'm kind toward you. I don't boast in myself when it comes to you. I don't envy anything you have and I'm glad you have it, if it is truly profitable to you. I don't want you being consumed or manipulated by evil things. I want you to know the truth about situations/ideas and not be deceived. I'm not easily angered by you and I have let go of the past offenses that once hurt me. I don't dishonor you, in fact, I take every opportunity I can to honor you and I'm not looking for any benefits in return." Now, people recite 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 at weddings like its something that comes naturally to us, but the truth is that it doesn't.; and this love is not just for marriage, this is for friends and family also. Be real with yourself-- you fail at it sometimes. But the love of God is perfect in this way. Let us #learnlove. Let us allow it to be perfected in us as promised, but the only way it will be perfected is if we abide in God. (1 John 4:16-17) We do not define love; Love is already defined."

Let the last line become the anthem for you all as it is for me. 

Just to add a little something: the reason we can hold grudges and refuse to forgive is because somewhere in our hearts, we feel that we have loved perfectly. We feel that we deserve a perfect love from other men and women as if they are capable of it. We feel like there are some things we just don't deserve. Question: what do we really deserve? The answer is eternal damnation if we look at things on the most ultimate scale. We have either, hated or loved a perfect God, imperfectly.

 If you are feeling unloved or mistreated, be sure to examine yourself. What I mean is be sure that you are not looking for a perfect love in men and women. What I'm saying is immerse yourself in the knowledge of the perfect love of God. From there, you will be able to show it more perfectly, and your quest to find it in return will be finished. 

too much love,

youdontknowmebro

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I'm A Christian, But I Cuss A Little

Boyyy, this t-shirt got people mad, mad.

This blog is gonna be very short and to the point.

There are several types of Christian. You have the real Christians, the fake deep Christians, the seriously deep Christians and the flawless Christians.

Which one am I? None of them.

We have to shake this, Saints.

The new wave of putting your sin on blast came from a good place, I'm sure. It became a thing with intent to smash ideas that Christians are as perfect as we will be in eternity. It wasn't supposed to be a way to coddle, embrace, or perpetuate sin.

The preexisting wave of staying silent about sin came from a good place, I'm sure. It became a thing with intent to smash ideas that Christians can sin as much as they want. It wasn't supposed to be a way to puff oneself up, or hold an unrealistic level of perfection.

This is my position:

When I'm real about my imperfections, not glorifying my sin, but just talking about my experience with it, people in the world get saved and some people of the church get uncomfortable. Now, listen: It should always be clear that sin will kill you. SIN DON'T LOVE YOU. However, we must make it extremely clear that we never stop needing to repent. We should never make it look like our debt to repentance is paid up. When we acknowledge our sin, we must acknowledge the death that it leads to and the grace that covers us to remove it. This is why it's not okay to have a shirt that says "I love God, but I embrace [insert sin here]". As a Christian, we know our sins will be the death of us. It only takes ONE sin to do it. There is no sin that we can safely embrace.

If I can tell a prostitute that my lustful thoughts/behavior will be the death of me, I am not only giving truth, but admonishing. Paul, your favorite apostle, admonished the people based on what he saw of their lives. I could say that I struggled with lust, but I'm a woman wrapped in flesh. Sin has to die daily. I can never pretend that that fight is over. We are never done killing the flesh for as long as we are wrapped in the flesh, but we can have victory over it EVERY DAY.

Ladies and gentlemen, we have a common enemy, whether you're flawed, flawless, fake deep, real deep, or lukewarm as all get out. You have victory over sin by the blood, but I promise, if you get too comfortable, the enemy WILL catch you slippin. Satan is a mass deceiver and the bible says that even the very elect may be deceived, if possible, by false messiahs and prophets in these times. STAY VIGILANT. Don't think you can't be touched. Stay covered. You can't do this on your own.

too much love,
youdontknowmebro

Idol, Called Orgasm

Let me tell you about me and sex.

We are not talking about love, ladies and gentlemen. We are talking about sex. There's a difference, just in case you didn't know; and if you didn't, I don't blame you. It's the media's best kept secret. 

But back to me: 

I was exposed to sex at a very young age. Like most of us, it was introduced to me through perversion; namely through molestation. I want to make it clear that sexual perversion would be anything sexual or lewd that disregards its sacredness or connection to God and his law. So, yes, most of us were introduced to sex through some type of perversion, especially if it was on television. It is sexual immorality from which the bible tells us to flee in 1 Corinthians 6:18. (See Hebrew 13:4, Leviticus 20:13-18, Romans 1 for more information). That's certainly not all the scriptures regarding it, but, this is an opportunity to study to show yourself approved. If you are not interested in the walk of Jesus, you will not be interested in any of those scriptures (LOL), but lets go back to me for a second. Since that time in my life, multiple experiences of sexual contact at such a young age, I have dealt with it to an unreal extent --being that it only started while I was 8 or 9 years old.

Let me tell you, you THINK not having sex is no big deal until you ABSTAIN. You think the people who are abstinent, or saving themselves, are built differently because they abstain from sex, but for many, if not most, its the Holy Spirit who effects that discipline. I can promise you, you hear about them saying "no" to their partners and you see them get uncomfortable during sex scenes, but that's because there's a BATTLE in effect that many Christians just don't talk about. Personally, I'm not one to say much about it because I feel like my sex life (or the lack thereof) is nobody's business, but please, PLEASE know whats real. You don't have to agree or respect the battle of abstinence, but you have to know that you will get ex'd out of a person's life for jeopardizing it. That's how serious it is for a person who has experienced sex and has chosen to offer their bodies, quite literally, a living sacrifice.

Do you wonder how/why they do it?

Let me tell you: I almost 23 years old. I am fertile as fertile can be. My body is made for reproduction and, just by that token alone, it is ready for sex. While my body, and your body, may be ready for sex, we have to recognize that we, ourselves, are not. Let's not even talk about premarital sex because even if we manage to wait until a guy puts a ring on it (or for the fellas: until a girl lets you have her number to begin with, to allow you to put a ring on it), it is still a matter of unrooted desire. The initial sex drive is not learned, it is innate.

I'll give you my personal experience and then I'll give you scripture to broaden the point. For me, it had to stop being about "trying to stay holy", "trying not to look at nasty scenes", "trying not to listen to and imagine the lyrics in songs", "trying not to send 'that text'" -- I had to stop TRYING! Scripture is nothing with out the Spirit of God (2 Corinthians 3:6). I needed to connect with Him about this matter. It had to start being about who God is, why He's worth it, what He's done for me to overcome the sin that has been whipped, engraved and bleached into my flesh. I had to sit myself in front of rebuke and convicting scripture, especially when I didn't want to. Masturbating is so easy to do, and it's a leading cause of keeping the drive for sex alive and hungry. Masturbation is self pleasing, but its not the real thing, so your flesh will keep wanting the real thing until you give it what it needs...

 d e a t h. 

Just a tidbit on masturbation: Many use the passage Genesis 38:8-10 to speak against masturbation under the charge of "wasting seed". If you notice, the offender in this passage was given specific instructions and disobeyed God by not giving his seed (or impregnating) his brother's wife. I encourage you to study the scripture for yourself and take in all of the context. This isn't to justify the misplacement of sexual pleasure, but to encourage you to get interpretation of scripture on your own, and not solely from other people. 

Colossians 3:5
Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry.

LADIES AND GENTLEMEN

Did you hear that?! 

IDOLATRY

I'm not here to call you an idolator. I'm here to say that these things listed in scripture are idolatry and so we have to regard it as such! We can't play with it. Idolatry doesn't stop at Buddah statues and Beyonce. Some of us have condemned and would have stoned others who are guilty of worship of other things when we ourselves have worshipped our own bodies. 

Scenario 1: The body cries out for a nut or relief, and you are obligated to take care of this right now or you won't be able to get anything done. For the guys, that is even more literal. So, you give it what it asks for. 

Scenario 2: God says via Paul in Romans 8:12 "Therefore, brothers and sisters, we have an obligation--but it is not to live according to the flesh"  

Which obligation do we honor? 

You think about it and judge, righteously, your own heart. Are you an idolator of the orgasm? Do you worship the D? Are you waking up devoting your thoughts and mind to the next time you will get some? What's the last thing you watch at night? Who is the last person you talk to? For this reason, David said in 

Psalms 101:3
I will set no wicked thing before my eyes: I hate the work of them that turn aside; it shall not stick to me.

David knew what was best for himself to keep his flesh in place, dead and unsatisfied. 

Many will tell you, marriage is not the solution for hormones, and they're right. In marriage, sex is still there for the purpose of serving, not to be served. Sex is supposed to be mutually satisfying and just like the very nature of love, sex is purposed to bring life, glorify God, and steadfastly give your spouse a good thing. If you go into marriage thinking, for the most part, about how you will be served, is that love to begin with? Is it healthy to expect that your flesh will always be satisfied, even after kids, careers, and the periodic seasons of not seeing eye to eye? I mean, lets be real. There are no scriptures that support getting an orgasm or satisfaction by way of anything other than your spouse. Learn how to put your flesh in its place, now, otherwise, you will be a slave to it on down to defiling your own body with your own hands. 

The bed of marriage, the only place (figuratively) that sex is pleasing to the Lord. If you don't control it now, as you are single or married, it will lead to impurity and furthermore, fornication, adultery, and anything else is possible, too: child pornography, child molestation, bestiality, etc.

Matthew 5:28
 But I say unto you, that whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart. 

I know it's hard out here, y'all! 

But you have to do whats best for you.

Put aside the idol.

I'm not here to say whether or not you love God, because the microscope isn't on my life right now to make things fair. But one thing is certain, if you don't love God, you won't do this. 1 Corinthians 6:9 tells us that those who choose to go after these things won't see the kingdom of GOD. 

Frankly, I can't make you want to see it, either.

BUT

If you do love God, allow me to encourage you:

You will live without the orgasm until your time comes. After that, redeem the time!

God, Himself, is life. 

The Holy Spirit is with you and enabling you to cleave to your convictions like because your life depends on it. You will be okay.

 

too much love,

youdontknowmebro

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4 Ways to Avoid Unhealthy Relationships: Habits of the Heart (Exclusive)

I don't know why I keep falling for the same types. Just when I'm comfortable and expect the commitment that I've been waiting for, time after time, it falls through. They bail. They cheat. They turn mean. They become controlling. They hate me, but they say that they love me to keep me around; and because I love them, I stay long past the sand leaves the hourglass. Because I trust them, I wait for the colors that I saw in the beginning to spring back like May. But, the longer I wait, the worse it gets and the more convinced they are that I would stay under any conditions. This isn't their fault, though. It's mine. I'm not intentionally picking bad apples, but I am picking them and then I stay. I ignore the signs. I ignore my friends, and most of all, I ignore God. 

Did you feel that? Are you choked up? Are you fresh out a the second, third, fourth, or fifth similar relationship? If that's you, then, it's time to get to where God has been trying to take you and I'm here to help you with that here, right now, today. Pack your bags, we're going to the promised land.

4 Ways to Avoid Unhealthy Relationships

Habits of the Heart

1. Forgive yourself, and them.

You are not stupid. You saw the red flags and ignored them? okay. You ignored God? okay. You knew better? okay. You feel like you should have seen the signs? Well, maybe. But everybody has pushed on a door that says 'Pull'. People run into stationary objects everyday. What I'm saying is that everybody makes mistakes and then reflects on them thinking "man, if only I had just..." 

Is it okay to do these things? Not all the time. But, it is okay. If you don't forgive yourself, you will use every relationship to redeem yourself. You will think in terms of "finally, I chose the right one. This one could be it" before you realize that you really haven't. You may even carry these feelings into what could be the right relationship, but because you're not liberated from your past, you lose the ability to approach that relationship with a clear and stable slate. Your heart may become hardened against the very thing that God wants to bless you with all because you could not let go of what has happened. Forgive yourself, forgive them, and embrace that freedom before you try to embrace another person. This is what's best for you!

2. Relinquish control.

There is nothing wrong with being married, in a relationship, or even being single. In adulthood, there is no age restraint on seasons. There is no serious problem with getting married in your 20's. There is no serious problem waiting until your 30+ years. The problem is doing these things outside of the appointed season. There are ideas that you should wait until you're a certain age, or that you should haste before a certain age, to be in a relationship. In addition to that, with free will, we tend to think that just because we can or want to be with somebody, that we need to be with somebody as soon as possible. The truth is that this is just not true.

If we say we want what God has for us, we have to be prepared for all that that means. That may mean dry seasons, so that you might find God to be more refreshing and thirst quenching than you've ever known Him to be. That may mean lonely seasons, so that we can separate ourselves from the dire need of physical contact, however sinfully or destructively it may come. Perhaps, that would mean fulfilling the same needs with the presence of God until He provides a physical representation of His perfect will to fulfill it.

Either way, you have to yield. You have to be ready to not feel ready. You have to be prepared for the discomfort. It will be good for you. Like drug rehabilitation, even without experiencing it, we can SEE that it is a painful process to detox, and it takes good counsel and vigilance to stay clean, thereafter. Habits of the heart can have us going back to what we know feels good, but the euphoria leaves and it turns destructive really fast. Only, by then, you're hooked.

3. Don't fall in the traps.

New levels, new devils. That's what they say, right? Once you get free, there is always another trap waiting and timed perfectly. It never comes on strong enough to scare you away, but it is forward enough to show desire. These traps either make you think that you have never felt that way before or that you will never feel that way again. These traps are as enticing as water in a desert, but you never know its a mirage until you get really close and really attached to the idea. It will look, smell, feel, and sound like what you've been waiting for, and believe me: it's supposed to. It's not always sexual, but it doesn't have to be. If you ever decide to give God a part of your life, the enemy will send incentive to take advantage of your free will. This is not to bring you temporary comfort. This is to destroy you. DESTROY YOU. Don't fall for it. Hide yourself in the Lord. Pray without ceasing. Be a hearer and doer of the word. Be about your Father's business. Know that the Lord has such great plans for you if you allow Him to build you; and if you allow Him to build you, you will be able to carry and sustain His great plans.

4. Honor God in your position

Don't gripe. This is for YOUR benefit. Don't feel sorry for yourself. Don't find other destructive ways to fill the void. Don't resent God because His plan doesn't line up with your plan. Please don't do it. Let the fruit of your lips honor Him. When you see His perfect work come to pass, you will be humbled, but start humbling yourself, even now. Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding (Proverbs 3:5-6). Present your body as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God as this is your reasonable service (Romans 12:1). Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all that belongs to you, according to the will of God, will be added to you (Romans 6:33). You have to believe that. Don't have a bad attitude, but humble yourself in faith that God loves you. He has your back, and His ways and methods of choosing are far above your own. 

Listen.

Before you go to sleep tonight
and when you wake up in the morning,
I pray the presence of God will meet you.
His peace will surpass your understanding.
All of your questions may not get answered,
but they don't have to be.
As you repent, surely, all guilt is gone--
You are a new creature in Christ.
Regret serves no purpose as the old things are passed away
and God is doing a new thing.
I pray that you yield and yield and yield
until the next time you look up,
you're in a different space, hidden in the Lord.
Hidden so deeply that your habits know that they have no authority
to call you by your name.
You are more than a conqueror through Jesus Christ.
Your feelings may not have changed,
but they will, as you hide yourself and
allow the Lord to do His perfect work.
The enemy will send distractions.
Those distractions will be sweet and they
will alleviate the pain for a while,
but they are meant to get your attention
and turn destructive when you least expect it.
But they will neither entice, nor destroy you. 
As you focus on the Lord,
No weapon formed against you shall prosper.
Not again!

Honor Him in the midst your joy as well as your despair. 

You will be alright. 

"It's better than it feels"

too much love,

youdontknowmebro

The New Gospel - Humbling of the Body Pt 1

Hey, beautiful people. Before we dive in, I want to say: PLEASE share because somebody needs
to know the truth! This blog is just a tad longer than my other blogs, but it will be worth it.

Part I
(Humility, Prosperity Gospel, The New Gospel/Lukewarm)

You know why people would rather talk about cars, clothes, favor, and increase rather than sin? Well, it's probably because the people of God have forgotten how to approach the discussion, almost entirely.

Oh, but they approach it though. On a large scale, there is a select group of individuals who are creating a name for believers all over the world and they make themselves known by way of the topic of sin. They make THEMSELVES known; Not Jesus, themselves.

Long ago the LORD said to Israel: “I have loved you, my people, with an everlasting love. With unfailing love I have drawn you to myself. (Jeremiah 31:3)

With unfailing love, the LORD drew people to Him. So, why are the people of God trying to use other things to draw the people in to other places? 

THE REAL GOSPEL

The gospel doesn't start with Heaven. The gospel is magnified by, but isn't centered, around Hell. The gospel isn't summed up with where someone is predestined to go or what materials they can receive on Earth. The gospel starts with the BLOOD. The crucifixion and resurrection of Jesus is the good news!

The blood, which represents the love, of Jesus is the ONLY reason the people of God don't deserve Hell. While holiness and obedience is how we show that we love Him, it is not our incompetent works that make us saved. Don't get me wrong, you're not scot-free just because you can't earn your way into Heaven. It's true, your life will reflect ongoing change if you have truly received Jesus. But, your attempts at holiness have nothing to do with your chance at eternal life; and when the WHOLE Gospel is in effect in a believer's life, all these factors are at work. Needless to say, many people don't emphasize the part about Jesus, they emphasize the works, exposing a dangerous characteristic in Gods people. Pride.

The body of Christ DESPERATELY needs humility! We should ask ourselves the question we find in Psalm 8:4, truly, what is man that thou art mindful of him? Who are we?! Who are we, but leeches of a God who will never lose strength. He is the Vine and we are mere branches. You don't have to choose between boldness and humility. Jesus was both. Jesus came to expose the needs of the people but to also MEET their need. In all the truth He spoke, He successfully directed all glory to the Father. He TAUGHT the people how to love God. But today, we lost balance in our witness. It's not always conviction, sometimes people can just sense the pride that fuels your speech. You can teach holiness, but you shouldn't teach it as if you have something to boast about. OUR HOLINESS IS NOTHING TO BOAST ABOUT. What I'm trying to say to the believers who think they have it all together is: You THINK it's only one thing you struggle with while God is looking at a plethora of other things that's darkening your heart. But, in Romans 8:1-2, we see that it is through CHRIST, only, that we are free from the law of sin and death. Meaning the natural law of sin leading man to condemnation and eternity in Hell is interrupted and destroyed for as long as we remain IN Christ Jesus.  THEN, do we go from faith to faith (Romans 1:17); always growing in the righteousness of God.  

So then our speech should not be,

Why God Allowed It

I have had such the habit of wanting to know why God allows certain things to happen, like death or extreme discomfort. Like most people, I think about those things that I didn't ask for or don't think I deserve and really have a problem with it when I'm expected to act a certain way in the midst of it. I like to think that I'm a pretty logical person. So, I use my logic like a new age scientist who can look at the facts of a situation, see all, and know all. I had a "Lord, if you could just fix this, I would be able to do right", mentality. Atheists, all over the world, ask the question: why does God allow evil/molestation and rape/world hunger, etc. Many of us consider ourselves to be enough of a good person to decide that God is actually not that good.

Personally, I am aware that evil comes in forms less severe than murder and molestation (not to be insensitive, as I was a victim of molestation); so, I wonder, to what degree of evil are people referring? Is man wondering why God gave people free-will to lie? Are we expecting God to wipe out all evil like He did in the Old Testament? There is no win because many people hate God because of His rage in the Old Testament. So, who's allowed to have vengeance, if not the Lord, only man? Can I say, first and foremost, that everything we see is not as it appears to be. We will never know everything just by studying it with our human eye. I have lost patience, peace, growth, and a spirit of obedience at the cost of trying to make human sense out of some things.

In any case, I've asked "Why would You allow me to get hurt?"
I've said and meant "I don't deserve this and I didn't ask for this". Sin, of any size, God hates. So, humble and sober-mindedness would have us know that there is nothing we deserve, but the wrath of God which is held back by grace. Every good thing is a gift. 

But at the same time; Sometimes we can't blame anybody but ourselves when we are intentionally defiant and deliberately disobedient. However, sometimes we follow the rules. Sometimes, we accept grace that covers our faults. Sometimes we repent for our wrongdoing and are washed clean by the blood. Sometimes, we can trace why things in our lives fall apart, but, sometimes, we can't. God knows all and sees all, so the question is why, sometimes. I even spoke about it in a piece that you can find on this website, because I've really had questions in my life. I've really hit the border of atheism in my life. But after much restoration, one rainy morning, I had an experience that would shape my thinking for the rest of my life.