Dear Readers,
I'm from Louisiana. Therefore, this particular blog contains a lil' bit of southern ..twang, and I don't want to change it. *cues Mirrors x Justin Timberlake*
IT'S LIKE YOU'RE MY MIRROR!
MY MIRROR'S STARING BACK AT ME!
I COULDN'T GET ANY BIGGER!
WITH ANYONE ELSE BESIDE ME!
And now it's clear as this promise
That we're making two reflections into one
'Cause it's like you're my mirror
My mirror staring back at me, staring back at me
That we're making two reflections into one
'Cause it's like you're my mirror
My mirror staring back at me, staring back at me
I'm not talking about mere gender roles, I'm talking about purpose. PLEASE PLEASE DON'T GET ME WRONG: Woman's purpose for being is to serve God, FIRST. But I GOT A QUESTION: Why do women get hype about being married, being provided for and spoiled, and forget about their role to help?
How do you help?
We will get back to Justin Timberlake, I promise!!! but, a common place that many (not all) wives these days live and die to avoid is work in the main environment -- the home. The idea of cooking (or making sure he eats, however that may be) and cleaning has become such a topic for debate that we have forgotten how helpful it is to be available to do that, even a little bit! I understand that times have changed and women are working as much as men these days. I don't knock the hustle. I'm not saying take off your Red Bottoms and Skirt Suit to put on a moo - moo, rollers, and slippers... I'm just saying.. relax! There are some Christian women, in particular, who want to serve on the Usher Board, the church administration, and in the choir, but don't want to serve at all in the home because its ...oppressive? Your decision is not my business; let's move on.
Aside from the physical things like finances and family life, there is spiritual side of helping. As women, for some reason, we don't forget anything. I mean, sometimes we misplace things, but you never forget what a man said. That's why they can never, ever lie about their occupation!!! LOL. So, when a woman of God hears a man say that he's a man of God, we retain that in our memory and expect behavior to support that. A woman of God not only hears, but discerns his sincerity and that becomes an attractive trait. We miss the mark when we expect perfection, but we are of no good use if we can't be helpful in the one area that can decide a man's position in eternity. My pastor put it this way: the woman is a prototype of the Holy Spirit, helping, comforting and bringing things back to man's remembrance.
AM I SAYING THAT YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR A MAN'S SALVATION?
the devil IS a lie!
What I'm saying is that we should be able to remind our brothers (or your love interest, stud muffin, bae face, or whatever you want to call him) in the faith of who they are or who they are striving to be. That means that we have to stand our ground in the faith even when he waivers. That means we have to BE the woman of God that we claim we are - IT'S MORE THAN A FACEBOOK POST OR SOCIAL MEDIA BIOGRAPHY. That means that we have to master being firm yet gentle and positively persuasive in the things of God. Oh, man I don't mean to put all this weight on the women of the world, but I do hope to encourage you to be helpful AND be sure to submit only to a man who will help you go higher in Christ as well. (ahem) BE SURE TO SUBMIT ONLY TO A MAN WHO WILL HELP YOU GO HIGHER IN CHRIST AS WELL. Sure, be helpful, but please don't submit your emotions to any man that hasn't proven that he'll cover you in a godly way.. You're too important for that, sis.
SIDE NOTE: This might hurt, ladies, but we have to be okay with helping our brothers as brothers, only; and nothing more unless God would be pleased with more. Praying together every now and then and going to church on Sundays doesn't make him the man that God has for you. You cannot make a man love you. You cannot make a man love God. These things have to be said, straight up.
On our way back to Justin Timberlake; stay with me!
I said earlier: Sometimes you have to remind a man of God that he is a man of GOD
and a true man of God would want you to.
Life is hard enough without friends to help you stay focused.
That means that for a brother in Christ, it would be helpful for you to be able to humbly remind him
of the Word when life has him a bit jaded. He won't shut down your counsel or feel belittled by it if its real.
That means that if you're dating a man of God, it would be helpful to be mindful of what you wear and to be able to tell him "no" to sex. If he is, in fact, a man of God, he will appreciate it. Some will say that a man of God wouldn't even ask or shouldn't be looking, but whatever. We all are responsible for making sure we don't cause each other to stumble.
This is where JT comes in!
"IT'S LIKE YOU'RE MY MIRROR!
MY MIRROR'S STARING BACK AT ME!"
MY MIRROR'S STARING BACK AT ME!"
What Brother Timberlake is saying is that the most cherished part of this woman is that she is his mirror. She is a reflection of who he is and a reminder of who he wants to be. When you look in a mirror, you see a reflection of your physical condition. You can walk around all day looking rough, but not know it until you look in a mirror. You can find affirmation in a mirror when you like what you see. A mirror will either make you feel good about your condition or show you where you need to change. Although there are no mirrors to show a person's spiritual condition, there are people who will do that for you. I'm on the subject of women and help only because I am a woman. As a woman, created to help man, he should be able to look at you and remember who he is by the godliness that you reflect, the light you emit and the words you speak into his life. I'm not saying be perfect, because that's just unfair and impossible. But love goes past butterflies and past satisfying your own dependence or need for physical contact. Pray for your brother, or husband, and the help you give should promote growth in his life.
or as Brother Justin put it:
or as Brother Justin put it:
"I COULDN'T GET ANY BIGGER!
WITH ANYONE ELSE BESIDE ME!"
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"And now it's clear as this promise
That we're making two reflections into one
'Cause it's like you're my mirror
My mirror staring back at me, staring back at me"
That we're making two reflections into one
'Cause it's like you're my mirror
My mirror staring back at me, staring back at me"
Is it just me or was that a reference to marriage
Mark 10:8 and the two shall become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two but one flesh.
ahhhh! Maybe I'm just thinking too much
in any case:
Nagging, talking and complaining comes so easy to women. I, personally, have my own set of issues. But, overall, women have the power to be incredible helpers if only we would get our equipment together.
By the way, there is a horrid misconception floating around social media that says if a man proposes to a woman, then she is, therefore, virtuous (p31 status). I'm here to tell you that ain't necessarily true. Marital status does not define you!
I'm out!
I'm out!
too much love,
youdontknowmebro
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I need to give you an offering because you just preached Sunday morning service! LOL This was really good. Keep up the good work & continue to spread the Word
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